Recommended Resources

With so many great resources available through various mediums it can be challenging to know where to start. I’ve compiled a list that will help get you started. Be sure to check back here as I update this page with more options.

Books by Terry Real

Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship

Stop working on yourself as an individual and start working on your relationship as a couple, with the help of the renowned family therapist and author of “The New Rules of Marriage”

I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression

A bestseller for over 20 years, I Don’t Want to Talk About It is a groundbreaking and hopeful guide to understanding and destigmatizing male depression, essential not only for men who may be suffering but for the people who love them.

The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work

In his extraordinary new book, Terrence Real, distinguished therapist and bestselling author, presents a long overdue message that women need to hear: You aren’t crazy–you’re right!

How Can I Get Through to You? Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men & Women

Bestselling author and nationally renowned therapist Terrence Real unearths the causes of communication blocks between men and women in this groundbreaking work.

Fierce Intimacy (Audiobook)

Proven skills for navigating the real challenges of intimate relationships. How to communicate with love and respect – even when you argue.


The Relational Life Foundation

To learn more about the Relational Life Foundation and the power of the Relational Life Therapy model, please visit this link.

Other Recommended Reading

It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are & How to End the Cycle

A groundbreaking approach to transforming traumatic legacies passed down in families over generations, by an acclaimed expert in the field.

Getting Past Your Past: Take Control of Your Life With Self-Help Techniques from EMDR Therapy (Audiobook)

Whether we’ve experienced small setbacks or major traumas, we are all influenced by memories and experiences we may not remember or don’t fully understand. Getting Past Your Past offers practical procedures that demystify the human condition and empower listeners looking to achieve real change.

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, & Body in the Healing of Trauma

Trauma is a fact of life. Veterans and their families deal with the painful aftermath of combat; one in five Americans has been molested; one in four grew up with alcoholics; one in three couples have engaged in physical violence.

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment & How It Can Help You Find & Keep Love

Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love.

In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness

In this culmination of his life’s work, Peter A. Levine draws on his broad experience as a clinician, a student of comparative brain research, a stress scientist and a keen observer of the naturalistic animal world to explain the nature and transformation of trauma in the body, brain and psyche. In an Unspoken Voice is based on the idea that trauma is neither a disease nor a disorder, but rather an injury caused by fright, helplessness and loss that can be healed by engaging our innate capacity to self-regulate high states of arousal and intense emotions.

The Happiness Trap 2nd Edition: Stop Struggling, Start Living

Do you ever feel worried, miserable or unfulfilled – yet put on a happy face and pretend everything’s fine? You are not alone. Stress, anxiety, depression and low self-esteem are all around. Research suggests that many of us get caught in a psychological trap, a vicious circle in which the more we strive for happiness, the more it eludes us.

The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture

A book that changes everything – from the legendary Dr Gabor Mate

‘It all starts with waking up… to what our bodies are expressing and our minds are suppressing’

Western countries invest billions in healthcare, yet mental illness and chronic diseases are on a seemingly unstoppable rise. Nearly 70% of Americans are now on prescription drugs. So what is ‘normal’ when it comes to health?

Over four decades of clinical experience, renowned physician and addiction expert Dr Gabor Mate has seen how health systems neglect the role that trauma exerts on our bodies and our minds. Medicine often fails to treat the whole person, ignoring how today’s culture stresses our bodies, burdens our immune systems and undermines emotional balance.

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, or abandonment. You may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behaviour. These wounds can be healed, and you can move forward in your life.

The Tools: 5 Tools to Help You Find Courage, Creativity, & Willpower & Inspire You to Live Life in Forward Motion

The Tools offers a solution to the biggest complaint patients have about therapy: the interminable wait for change to begin. The traditional therapeutic model sets its sights on the past, but psychiatrist Phil Stutz and psychotherapist Barry Michels employ an arsenal of techniques “the tools” that allow patients to use their problems as levers that access the power of the unconscious and propel them into action.

Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence

This book is about pleasure. It’s also about pain. Most important, it’s about how to find the delicate balance between the two, and why now more than ever finding balance is essential. We’re living in a time of unprecedented access to high-reward, high-dopamine stimuli: drugs, food, news, gambling, shopping, gaming, texting, sexting, Facebooking, Instagramming, YouTubing, tweeting…

Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child

Are you outwardly successful but inwardly do you feel like a big kid? Do you aspire to be a loving parent but all too often “lose it” in hurtful ways? Do you crave intimacy but sometimes wonder if it’s worth the struggle? Or are you plagued by constant vague feelings of anxiety or depression?

If any of this sounds familiar, you may be experiencing the hidden but damaging effects of a painful childhood—carrying within you a “wounded inner child” that is crying out for attention and healing.

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment

In the first chapter, Tolle introduces readers to enlightenment and its natural enemy, the mind. He awakens readers to their role as a creator of pain and shows them how to have a pain-free identity by living fully in the present. The journey is thrilling, and along the way, the author shows how to connect to the indestructible essence of our Being, “the eternal, ever-present One Life beyond the myriad forms of life that are subject to birth and death.”

Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones

Tiny Changes, Remarkable Results.
No matter your goals, Atomic Habits offers a proven framework for improving–every day. James Clear, one of the world’s leading experts on habit formation, reveals practical strategies that will teach you exactly how to form good habits, break bad ones, and master the tiny behaviors that lead to remarkable results.

Bright Line Eating: The Science of Living Happy, Thin & Free

In this book, Susan Peirce Thompson, Ph.D. shares the groundbreaking weight-loss solution based on her highly acclaimed Bright Line Eating Boot Camps. Rooted in cutting-edge neuroscience, psychology, and biology, Bright Line Eating explains why people who are desperate to lose weight fail again and again: it’s because the brain blocks weight loss.

Discipline Without Damage: How to Get Your Kids to Behave Without Messing Them Up

In this easy-to-read, science-based book, parents, caregivers, and adults of all kinds discover how discipline affects children’s development, why intervention should reinforce connection not separation, and why the disciplinary strategies that may have been used on us as children are not the ones that children really need. As a practicing child and family psychologist and advisor to the British Columbia ministry of children and families, Dr. Vanessa has seen it all, and she has navigated hundreds of tough situations with families. Drawing on scientific research and a wealth of clinical experience, she shows you how to put out the fire without dampening your child’s spirits; how to correct their behaviour while emphasizing connection; and how to discipline without damage.

From Boys to Men: Guiding Our Teen Boys to Grow into Happy, Healthy Men

One of Australia’s favourite boy experts on how to help teen boys to develop into good men. For boys, adolescence can be a confusing minefield and parents are often bewildered as to how to best guide their precious sons. Many parents wake one day to find that their beautiful little boys have grown into silent, withdrawn, sometimes angry and often unmotivated tweens and teens.

Girlhood: Raising Our Little Girls to Be Healthy, Happy and Heard

The early years of a little girl’s life will shape her future in powerful ways. Maggie Dent, Australia’s queen of common-sense parenting, has investigated the development period from birth to age eight. Drawing on nearly 5,000 survey results, the latest research, and her own extensive experience as an educator, counsellor, facilitator, mum and grandmother, Maggie shows us how to help our girls build an emotional and psychological base for life.

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